How do you select the right coach?
Most coaches offer a free coaching resource such as a weekly blog or newsletter. Following this blog for a couple of weeks will give you an idea if you connect to the style and messaging of that coach. Most also provide a complementary strategy session so scheduling an appointment with two or three coaches will give you great insight into how they work, and a solid comparative basis for making your selection. A good coach will be as interested in you being the right fit for them as the client should be in selecting their coach. Trusting your coach is paramount.
When is the right time to hire a coach?
- You are stuck. You've thought about doing something for a long time but don't know where to begin or how to take action.
- You are in a new professional role, or want to be, and desire to put your best self forward.
- You need to communicate more skillfully.
- You want your life and work to be more productive and fulfilling.
- You need support and accountability to stretch and grow (we all do).
- You feel taken advantage of by others.
- You want stronger relationships.
Be prepared to engage.
It's important to not think of your coaching relationship as an add-on. Everyone is busy, everyone already has too much on their plate. Before you engage a coach think through your life and your schedule and determine what you are willing to give up, or place on hold, in order to be coached. Expect your coach to ask about this and be prepared to discuss it.
Think of coaching as a partnership.
The adage "you get out of it what you put into it," nails the coaching relationship so be ready to work the partnership. If you need to constantly vent frustrations and / or process what you are going through out loud, your time and dollars may be better spent talking with a friend or a counselor. Ask questions of your coach and be open to theirs. Do the homework and send it to your coach ahead of your scheduled call time or meeting. As in any important partnership speak up if something is said that upsets you. Doing so may be just the breakthrough you need. At all times your coach has your best interest at heart - this is how we are trained, and how we think.
Put your cards on the table.
You may never have allowed yourself to even think about your dream, much less share it with someone. Or, if you did they may have told you all the reasons it wouldn't work! The coach can only work with what you choose to share so, knowing that they are ethically committed to holding your confidence, pull out your greatest triumphs, your colossal disasters, your years-ago certifications and the skeletons in your closet and be ready to clean house and alter your perspective.