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04/10/2015
Making Decisions Part 2
05/08/2015

Take the Trauma (& Drama!) out of Big Decisions

This week I want to give you a simple, no-tech, no-cost approach to use when you have a decision to make.

For most of us there comes a time when we struggle to make a decision. Sometimes these are small decisions and sometimes they are big (and many small ones we make BIG in our minds.)

Either way making a decision can be excruciating as we vacillate and spin and work ourselves into a tizzy (aka analysis paralysis) not knowing what to do.
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Before we know it we are just like Alice falling down the rabbit hole – except we are not as calm and collected as she is!

Two important things to remember when deciding between options:

1. Making a decision generally requires that we CHANGE something in our life – and most people simply don’t like changes. Our minds are hard-wired to prefer the status quo.

2. Our minds focus and hold onto what we will LOSE with the change, not allowing the ideas, possibilities and new beginnings to take center stage.

When faced with two paths and you are not sure which one to take try this…to take the trauma (& drama) out of your decisions and therein simplify your life…

Write 4 lists:

1) Everything you enjoy / like about point A.
2) The things you don’t like / enjoy about point A.
3) What you would miss if you were no longer associated with point A.

Now – here is the key piece:

Your 4th list is to identify how you can RECREATE those things from #3 in your life, outside of Point A.

This is where the shift occurs. Instead of focusing on what you will lose by making the change, your mind shifts to thinking about resources that you have available to you to draw from, to expand and to create. The end result is that you can experience the change not as a victim, but as a driver of it. There is so much more fun energy in the possibilities.

Are you trying to make some decisions in your life? Try the exercise and let me know what you think.

Confused about how to use the exercise? Let’s schedule some time to talk. Email me at gb@gigiblair.com

 

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9 Comments

  1. Rebecca Lutz says:
    04/25/2015 at 1:34 am

    Very good advice! I love it!
    Blessings to you Gigi!!
    Reb

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    • Gigi Blair says:
      04/26/2015 at 3:35 am

      And to you RKL! Always have sweet memories of supper club days. So glad you like the newsletter.

      Reply
  2. Sally says:
    04/25/2015 at 12:24 pm

    Thanks Gigi. You state things so clearly. Nice approach to problem solving.

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    • Gigi Blair says:
      04/26/2015 at 3:33 am

      Thank you Sally!

      Reply
  3. Catherine says:
    04/25/2015 at 1:38 pm

    Hi Gigi,
    Thank you for your wise words- they really spoke to me. For too long I have focused on what I lost in my divorce. It’s time for me to RECREATE!
    Love & hugs,
    Catherine

    Reply
    • Gigi Blair says:
      04/26/2015 at 3:33 am

      And the world needs your creations Catherine!

      Reply
  4. Diana Batchelor says:
    04/25/2015 at 9:06 pm

    Excellent! Gigi I love your emails, I feel so good after reading them. Your touches empower me by giving me tools to work with.
    Thank you very much 🙂

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    • Gigi Blair says:
      04/26/2015 at 3:27 am

      Diana, thanks so much for letting me know and I’m so happy you find my newsletters helpful – that is certainly the idea!

      Reply
  5. Amy says:
    04/26/2015 at 2:08 pm

    Ok gigi perfect advice and yes we need to visit. Love you☺️❤️

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